We’re all familiar with those supposed alpha (fe)males who think they own the space they inhabit. Those with dominance-based power moves like talking too loud, interrupt others, taking up unnecessary space, taking credit for work they may or may not have done…I could go on.
I’m sure you’re also familiar with the traditional power moves the aforementioned coworker’s displays, such as the blatant posturing, the overly strong handshake, the excessive eye contact.
In today’s workplace, overly aggressive behavior is NOT the way to go. Negatively asserting dominance in the workplace is not appreciated by your boss or those around you. Maybe it’s time to get some new power moves that positively affect your company’s culture?
Not convinced yet? Try the following out and just see how people respond.
Positive Power Moves
- Build rapport. Make a deeper connection to avoid the dreaded small talk. People WILL avoid you if you ask “How’s it going?” every single time they see you.
- Learn how other people view the world. By stepping into their mindset, you can work more collaboratively and deliver better results.
- Spend time around the office. Use your free time to wander and check-in with different departments.
- Lead with weakness to get them to open up. This does not mean “Be Weak,” but it does require vulnerability.
- Empathy DOESN’T mean you agree with them, but it gives the sense that you are willing to take their opinions into account.
- Give them a reputation they would like to live up to.
- Praise the person themself. Not just the act.
- Volume Level. You can leave space for conversation by implementing silence or the proverbial last word.
- Smile and touch and compliment.
- Use big gestures.
Humor Is Under-Rated
- Jest with compliments based upon accomplishment.
- Use humor and laughter to make the other person feel warm around you.
- Use teasing and self-deprecation: First, lead with an overwhelming compliment. Don’t attack someone’s identity. Don’t tease something that is unchangeable and important to them. Don’t make yourself the butt of every joke.
A power move is simply a career strategy to get you the recognition you deserve – key word being deserve.
Be a role model. Positive power moves show your colleagues that you’re bold and courageous, that you’re not afraid to assert yourself and that you’re a valuable leader.
If your actions create a legacy that inspires others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, then, you are an excellent leader. +Dolly Parton